Family Kids and Teens家庭的小孩,十几岁

The first date you go on with someone seems so important, right?第一次约会你就好像这么重要吗? Your palms are sweaty, you are hoping that he or she will be "the one," and your are trying so hard to make a good first impression.你手心都发汗,你希望他或她将"之一,"而你正努力作出良好的第一印象. First dates are, ideally, the seed that will grow into a great relationship.首日期,最好的种子,成长为一个伟大的关系.  

But the problem is that the "date seed" usually does not take root.但目前的问题是,"迄今为止种子",一般不扎根. We all know it can take many many dates to even grow into a decently acceptable relationship!我们都知道,它可以采取许多许多日期,甚至变成一个体面的接受关系!     

First dates may seem important to creating great relationships, but they are not as important as the collective viewpoint would have you think.第一期看似重要创造很大的关系,但他们都没有那么重要,因为集体的观点就是要你想. They are a tiny drop in the ocean of relationships and romance.他们是一支小小的沧海一粟关系和浪漫. The key to a quality first date is to realize how insignificant they truly are.关键在于质量第一的日期,是为了实现如何微不足道,他们的确是.  

When you go into a first date seeing it as being unimportant, you are not going to be unlikable.当你走进一首日期,把它看作是不重要的,你是不会有unlikable. IN fact, you will be much more likeable simply because you will be more relaxed.事实上,你会更可爱,因为你将较为宽松. Great relationships are forged from two people being relaxed in each other's presence.伟大的关系是伪造的,从两个人放松了对方的存在. That is all it takes.   这是所有需要.

So, when going on a first date do not focus on the date or how it is going.所以,当进行了一次约会不集中的日期或者是怎么样. Instead, make relaxation your main goal.反之,使松弛您的主要目标. Make acceptance of your self and the other your first goal and all else will fall into place.   让您接受自我和其他你第一个目标,而一切都将到位.

IN a way, imagine you are having a first date with yourself.在某种意义上说,想象你有一次约会吧. Act as if you have no one to impress, and you are likely to speak form your hear, to be more fun and to be more interesting.充当如果你没有一个印象,你很可能形成讲你听,为了得到更多的乐趣和更加有趣. Good relationships come from being interested in your self first, and then you can genuinely be interested in the other.良好的关系是来自兴趣你自己,然后你才能真正有兴趣的.  

So, trust yourself.所以,相信你自己. Do not put pressure on yourself to make a good impression.不施加压力,给自己一个好印象. Your only "true" relationships is with yourself, and all others are a reflection of that primary relationship.你唯一的"真实"的关系,是你自己,其余均反映了这一基本关系. How you feel about yourself is most imposrtn.怎么你对自己最imposrtn. Do you value yourself?你值吗? Or do you feel ugly or unworthy?或者你觉得不难看或不肖? These feelings will affect yrou relationships more than anything.这些情绪会影响yrou关系更为重要.  

Go into your first date as if it were a chance encounter with a very good old friend.进入自己的第一次约会,因为如果这是一个机会,遇到一个很好的老朋友. This outlook will give you room to breathe and feel safe.这一前景会给你一个喘息的空间和安全感. Stop thiking of the future.停止thiking的未来. Be only on the date.只有在该日期. Be only in the present.只在目前. Enjoy the date for what it is; enjoy the other person for who they are.享受日期,它是什么;享有与其他人他们是谁. Nothing is irrevocalble.什么是irrevocalble. Nothing you say needs to be carved in stone, unless you choose to carve it.没有你说需要的是刻在石头上,除非你选择雕.